This is about when we want to keep moving forward but… memories and strong feelings would just keep holding us back… we so called it “HOPE”
This is about when we want to keep moving forward but… memories and strong feelings would just keep holding us back… we so called it “HOPE”
I Wish You Were Here!
I never realized, how much I miss you, until time keep passing by & the silence filled in minutes, hours, days, weeks & months. It’s hard not miss you after so many years of friendship, experiences, words said and not said, moments, all of them so deep in my memory and thoughts. Only time will ease my mind, my thoughts, the sleepless nights through this rough times. I wish I could hear your voice, see you again, watch your eyes for only a moment… Just one more time hear you calling my name. Sweet memories, thanks for everything we’ve been through, because now you and I, we are not the same we used to be before, now we are stronger, we’ve learned a lot from each other, thanks for being my master, my mirror and my partner in crime; leasons have been learned and now is time to move on and keep going.
You are a wonderful person, but sometimes, people don’t get along together, so thanks for all the time, the moments and everything you showed me; my lover, my friend, my master, my partner in crime, my everything. I will miss you but whish to you the best for life, and hope one day our roads will cross again, keep within my soul the greatest and happier memories. Love you so much with all my being. (A.M.O)
We need to remember to ourselves that “there is magic and perfection in the imperfection”. Dreams are what keeps us going and moving on toward our goals… thanks for being my inspiration, and I still… Wish You Were Here.
Paciencia, otra vez esa palabra. El que espera, desespera y se confunde. Sobre todo cuando nos topamos con la incertidumbre de no saber cuándo va a llegar lo que anhelamos.
No te canses de esperar. La recompensa espera que tengas paciencia.
Sin embargo, la paciencia es algo más que la espera, es la expectativa calmada, es una especie de pausa en nuestro anhelo. La paciencia no nos adormece, se impone a la angustia y nos despierta.
Nos cuesta entenderlo pero la paciencia no es cargar y aguantar hasta no poder más y explotar. Ella es un arte, un arte que se hace responsable de liberarnos de las cargas emocionales innecesarias para mantener nuestro estado de paz.
Si eres paciente en un momento de ira, escaparás a cien días de tristeza
Las filosofías orientales nos hablan del don de la paciencia como si fuese una fuerza que nuestra mente emplea para decirle al resto del cuerpo que todo llegará.
Y es que las cosas más bellas del mundo requieren de paciencia para recubrirse de un halo de entusiasmo e ilusión. Un amor complicado, una persona casi inaccesible, una preparación física, una oposición; en definitiva, cualquier meta y cualquier logro que nos planteemos.
Frecuentemente, creemos que la vida nos dice “No”, cuando en realidad solo nos está diciendo “espera”. Nos impacientamos y, como consecuencia, nuestro nerviosismo nos hace cometer errores.
A veces sentimos que nos cansamos, que nuestros amigos, nuestra pareja o nuestras expectativas nos exasperan, que no llega nada de lo que pretendemos crear y que la vida no está hecha para nosotros.
El secreto de la paciencia es recordar que el dolor es temporal y la recompensa es eterna.
El que aguanta, gana. Sin embargo, a juzgar por el interés que le ponemos a cultivar y a trabajar este don, la paciencia es una reina destronada. Se nos enseña a ser los primeros en todo, a ganar a los que tenemos al lado, a correr… Y ya está.
Si te tomas las cosas con paciencia, no vales, te dejan fuera de juego. Sin embargo, lo cierto es que cualquier éxito requiere tiempo y paciencia, y esos son los únicos instrumentos que nos garantizan alcanzar una destreza.
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Talent is important, but success is also based on persistence, focus, and standing fast in the face of criticism. Fortunately, mental toughness is something you can develop.
Let’s get this out of the way: Mental toughness is not a quality you either do or don’t have.
Sure, some people may have greater self-discipline than you possess. Some people may be better at resisting temptation than you are. But that’s probably not because they were born with some certain special something inside of them–instead, they’ve found ways to develop mental toughness and use it when it really matters.
They’re mentally strong because they’ve learned how to be–and you can too.
1. Always assume you are in complete control.
There’s a quote often credited to Ignatius: “Pray as if God will take care of all; act as if all is up to you.” (It’s a very cool quote.)
The same premise applies to luck. Many people feel luck has a lot to do with success or failure. If they succeed, luck favored them, and if they fail, luck was against them.
Most successful people do feel good luck played some role in their success. But they don’t wait for good luck, or worry about bad luck. They act as if success or failure is totally within their control.
If they succeed, they caused it. If they fail, they caused it.
By not wasting mental energy worrying about what might happen to you, you can put all your effort into making things happen. (And then, if you get lucky, hey, you’re even better off.)
You can’t control what luck does for you, but you can definitely control what you do for yourself.
2. Make a lot fewer choices.
We all have a finite store of mental energy for exercising self-control.
The more choices we make during the day, the harder each one is on our brain–and the more we start to look for shortcuts. (When you’re tired, you’re a lot more likely to say, “Oh, the heck with it.”)
Then we get impulsive. Then we get reckless. Then we make decisions we know we shouldn’t make, but we just can’t seem help ourselves.
In fact, we can’t help ourselves: We’ve run out of the mental energy we need to make smart choices.
That’s why the fewer choices we have to make, the smarter choices we can make when we do need to make a decision.
Say you want to drink more water and less soda. Easy: Keep three water bottles on your desk at all times. Then you won’t need to go to the refrigerator and make a choice.
Or say you struggle to keep from constantly checking your email. Easy: Turn off all your alerts. Or shut down your email and open it only once an hour. Or take your mail program off your desktop and keep it on a laptop across the room. Make it hard to check, because then you’re more likely not to.
Or say you want to make fewer impulse purchases. Easy: Keep your credit card in a drawer. Then you can’t make an impulse buy. Or require two sign-offs for all purchases over a certain amount, because you will have to run those decisions by someone else (which probably means you’ll think twice and won’t even bother).
Choices are the enemy of mental toughness. So are ease and convenience. Think of decisions that require you to be mentally strong, and then take willpower totally out of the equation.
3. Put aside things you have no ability to impact.
Mental strength is like muscle strength–no one has an unlimited supply. So why waste your power on things you can’t control?
For some people, it’s politics. For others, it’s family. For others, it’s global warming. Whatever it is, you care, and you want others to care.
Fine. Do what you can do: Vote. Lend a listening ear. Recycle, and reduce your carbon footprint. Do what you can do. Be your own change–but don’t try to make everyone else change.
4. See the past as valuable training and nothing more.
The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others.
Then let it go.
Easier said than done? It depends on your perspective. When something bad happens to you, see it as an opportunity to learn something you didn’t know. When another person makes a mistake, don’t just learn from it–see it as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.
The past is just training; it doesn’t define you. Think about what went wrong but only in terms of how you will make sure that next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right.
5. Actively celebrate the success of others.
Many people–I guarantee you know at least a few–see success as a zero-sum game. To them, there’s only so much to go around, so if someone else shines, they think that diminishes the light from their star.
Resentment sucks up a massive amount of mental energy–energy better applied elsewhere.
When a friend does something awesome, that doesn’t preclude you from doing something awesome. In fact, where success is concerned, birds of a feather tend to flock together–so draw your successful friends even closer.
Don’t resent awesomeness. Create and celebrate awesomeness, wherever you find it, and in time you’ll find even more of it in yourself.
6. Never allow yourself to complain. Or criticize.
Your words have power, especially over you. Whining about your problems always makes you feel worse, not better.
So if something is wrong, don’t waste time complaining. Put that mental energy into making the situation better. (Unless you want to whine about it forever, eventually you’ll have to make it better.)
So why waste time? Fix it now. Don’t talk about what’s wrong. Talk about how you’ll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.
And do the same with your friends or colleagues. Don’t just serve as a shoulder they can cry on. Friends don’t let friends whine; friends help friends make their lives better.
7. Don’t try to impress others; impress yourself instead.
No one likes you for your clothes, your car, your possessions, your title, or your accomplishments. Those are all things. People may like your things–but that doesn’t mean they like you.
(Sure, superficially they might seem to like you, but what’s superficial is also insubstantial, and a relationship not based on substance is not a real relationship.)
Genuine relationships make you happier, and you’ll only form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself.
And you’ll have a lot more mental energy to spend on the people who really do matter in your life.
8. Consistently review your long-term goals.
Say you want to build a bigger company; when you’re mentally tired, it’s easy to rationalize that you’ll do your best tomorrow, not today. Say you want to lose weight; when you’re mentally tired, it’s easy to rationalize that you’ll start changing your eating and exercise habits tomorrow, not today. Say you want to better engage with your employees; when you’re mentally tired, it’s easy to rationalize that you really need to work on some report today; tomorrow you’ll worry about your employees.
Mental fatigue makes us take the easy way out–even though the easy way takes us the wrong way. That’s why it’s so important to maintain tangible reminders to pull you back from the impulse brink.
A friend has a copy of his bank note taped to his computer monitor as a constant reminder of an obligation he must meet. Another keeps a photo of himself on his refrigerator taken when he weighed 250 pounds so he’s constantly reminded of the person he never wants to be again. Katheryn Winnick, the star of Vikings, keeps a list of goals on her computer desktop so she’s forced to look at them every day. (She’s also hosted a vision board party, one of the cooler ideas I’ve heard in a while.)
Think of moments when you are most likely to give in to impulses that take you further away from your long-term goals. Then use tangible reminders of those long-term goals to interrupt the impulse and keep you on track.
9. Count your blessings.
Take a second every night before you turn out the light and, in that moment, quit worrying about what you don’t have. Quit worrying about what others have that you don’t.
Think about what you do have. You have a lot to be thankful for. Feels pretty good, doesn’t it?
Feeling better about yourself is the best way of all to recharge your mental batteries.
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There is a general perception that we can’t do much to enhance our intelligence. It’s almost always believed that whether you’re smart or not is determined right at birth and you can’t do anything about it.
However, these are all misconceptions. While some people have conditions that prevent them from being able to increase their intelligence level, for most people, there are plenty of things that can be done to make them smarter.
Hobbies are integral parts of our lives, and once developed, we find ourselves immersed in them on a regular basis. Hobbies are fun and invigorating- and they can also have a great influence on our intelligence.
Below are 10 hobbies that will help to make you smarter- all backed up by scientific studies and experiments:
Confucius said a long time ago, “Music produces a kind of pleasure which human nature cannot do without”. Music stimulates your brain, and this has been proven by research as well.
Music has the power to invoke complex emotions and psychological states. Various researchers have shown that both listening to music and playing a musical instrument increases memory capacity.
Playing a musical instrument also teaches you patience and perseverance for it takes time and effort to learn to play a musical instrument. It also sharpens your concentration.
Reading goes a long way towards increasing your intelligence level- this is further the case if you read voraciously across many different topics, from fiction and biographies, to anthologies.
Reading reduces stress, helps you to experience multiple emotions, and teaches you a lot about many subjects. All these factors help you to feel better about yourself; being at peace with yourself is one of the most important foundations for positive wellbeing.
Reading is very important for enhancing your knowledge on a subject, preparing for all sorts of situations and being more productive in how you go about achieving your goals.
The foremost benefit of meditation is to help you focus on yourself and to get you to know your true self. Being engrossed in meditation helps individuals transcend to a higher state of being.
Meditation helps to reduce stress levels and gets rid of all sorts of worries. With a calm and composed state of mind obtained through meditation, you can learn, think and plan things in a much more effective way.
Regular meditation helps you to have full control over yourself. Being aware of distractions and effective methods of self-control are of the utmost significance when working to improve your intelligence.
Just as you need to work out regularly to keep your body fit, you also need to work out your brain to keep it in good shape. Regularly challenging the brain to do new things enhances its abilities and helps to keep you sharp.
You can work out your brain in plenty of ways such as through: sudoku, puzzles, board games, and riddles. All these activities help the brain to continue forming new connections. Through such activities you also learn to respond to situations in creative ways, develop the ability to see things from a lot of different perspectives and become significantly more productive.
A healthy body helps to ensure that you have a healthy brain. After all, your brain is like another muscle in your body. Exercising regularly keeps your brain and body functioning as they are supposed to. It reduces tension and helps you to sleep better.
Doctors agree that better blood circulation to the brain means increased brain function. Various studies on mice and humans have shown that cardiovascular exercise can create new brain cells, and thus improve overall brain performance.
Learning a new language may not always be an easy task but it definitely has numerous advantages-making you smarter, being one of them.
The process of learning a new language involves tasks such as analyzing grammatical structures and learning new words, which enhances your intelligence and brain health.
It has also been proven through various experiments that people with high levels of verbal-linguistic intelligence are great at planning, decision-making and problem-solving.
There are tons of benefits that you can receive from writing, including increasing your overall level of intelligence.
Writing improves your linguistic abilities, of course. But it also helps you to develop such skills as focus, creativity, imagination, and comprehension.
Writers are often considered as having very high levels of intelligence. You can write in different ways. You can write things with your hand or you can create your own blog. Whatever you do, you are giving words to the images in your mind; learning to express yourself clearly is a great way to boost your intelligence.
Travelling is not just a way to kill your boredom- there’s lot more to it than that. Travelling can really boost your intelligence.
The physical and mental workouts involved with travelling, rid your mind of stress. As you become stress-free, you are more able to focus on tasks, observations, and deepening your understanding of subjects.
Every new place you travel to offers new things to learn. You encounter diverse people, food, culture, lifestyle and society while travelling, which puts you in touch with ideas you might never have thought of previously.
Many of us feel that cooking is a mere waste of time and it’s something we very much want to avoid.
But instead of whining, you should feel happy when you have the opportunity to cook. Regular cooks, particularly the ones who try out a variety of meals, have high levels of creativity. They are committed to quality, aren’t afraid to try things out and they pay great attention to details.
Whenever you cook something, you are learning to multitask, measure with precision and make quick decisions. With all of these skills you’re acquiring, you’re becoming smarter too.
Participating regularly in sports activities doesn’t only exercise the muscles but also does the same for the brain. Playing sports regularly makes the brain more flexible and improves overall brain health.
Sports have added benefits too. Watching sports has been linked with increased brain function, and through exercising you work out your muscles. Involvement in sport also enhances responsiveness, coordination, capabilities, and confidence.
Top athletes are known for their special form of intelligence. It doesn’t matter whether you play football, basketball or cricket. Consider being regularly involved in some form of sport to boost your brain’s performance.
This is just amaizing love it! So true… We might all follow:
The past is the future for most of us.
We cling to misguided notions that persistence, endurance, and more of the same will result in a new future. It won’t.
99% of the conversations I have about the future are actually about the past. People try to create a future by cling to or modifying the past.
Frequently, the future is turning back to distant “glory days.” It’s futile.
Memories without dreams are anchors.
The future is made by those who face forward, not backward. Stand on your glory days, don’t repeat them.
Finding your future:
Point of stability:
Focus on your values. Creating a new future is disruptive and disorienting. Determine three or four guiding ideals. Without them, you’re adrift.
Values guide-as-you-go without determining destinations.
While creating your new future you’ll be tempted to blame others for your disappointing present. That thinking destroys your future. Stop blaming others for the choices you’ve made. Your future begins when you own it.
How can leaders take steps to create the future?
Me encontré con éste artículo mientras navegaba por Internet, simplemente me encantó la reflexión que hace, creo que todos alguna vez hemos confundido “Amor” con “Enamoramiento”, el enamoramiento es temporal y son nuestras propias virtudes las cuales vemos reflejadas en la otra persona que nos causan esa atracción, sin embargo dura poco tiempo y al final lo que permanence para la pareja/relación, son: el compromiso mutuo, los detalles, la ternura, la comprensión, el compañerismo.
Dónde no se le puede dar cabida al egoismo puesto que amar es compartir, es ver por el binestar de la otra persona, ¿qué sucede cuando nos damos cuenta de no ser correspondidos en la misma forma? Se puede tener una atracción o tension sexual con muchas diferentes personas, sentir esa atracción física casi electrizante y paralizante, un deseo incontrollable de querer estar con ella, un beso, una caricia, un instante… Pero solo queda en eso, no existe conexión más allá de lo físico, no existe una trascendencia. En cambio encontrar una persona con quien podamos no solo tener una atracción física, sino también una conexión mental y espiritual hace toda la diferencia.
Siempre he dicho, que el “AMOR” está en los pequeños detalles del día a día, en romper la monotonía que después del paso de los años se convierte en hastío. Esos pequeños detalles hacen la diferencia entre permanecer o cambiar y romper.
“El amor es un sentimiento que se construye de forma dedicada, paciente y con mucho esfuerzo”
El amor es un sentimiento que se construye de forma dedicada, paciente y con mucho esfuerzo. A primera vista no puede darse ninguna de estas condiciones.
A primera vista podemos emocionarnos y sentirnos atraídas, pero el amor va mucho más allá de eso. Eso puede ser parte proceso del enamoramiento, pero amor no es. El amor a primera vista no existe
Todas soñamos con un hombre que nos ame, que nos consienta, cuide y siempre esté pensando en nosotras… Un ser que nos llene de esperanza, que respete nuestros espacios y nos tome de la mano para soñar juntos con un futuro lleno de amor, en el que podamos reconocernos mutuamente en los ojos.
Pero si esto es lo que soñamos, si este es nuestro anhelo… ¿Cómo es que cambiamos tan fácil de pensamiento?
Mirémoslo de esta forma:
Reconocemos que el amor es un sentimiento sublime, pero a la…
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